It’s not gay if you degrade him, rough him up and make him do all the work.
If you need a break from forcing a fag to take it the way you like it, find one of your top buddies - you know the type, one who’s rough enough to know how to really use a fag, but who knows, consciously or not, that you’re his superior - and make him do the work. He gets the thrill of bossing around and manhandling your fuckmeat, you get to sit back and enjoy a warm mouth and your buddy’s reverent eyes on your cock. Everybody wins. Even the fag is probably enjoying it, as if that counts for anything.
Hell yes, this is by far my favorite role to be - bullying a fag for the pleasure of an Alpha.